Songs about Boyfriends

Ah, in my eternal quest to catalog my love life, I've put together a list of songs that remind me of past boyfriends/lovers/or times in my life.

Boyfriend #3 (AR)

• "Sea of love" by Cat Power.
• "The Way I Are" - Timbaland.
• "Anyone Else But You" - Antsy Pants
• "I'm only Sleeping" - the Beatles
• "Maybe I'm Amazed" - Paul McCartney
• "How does it feel" - Voodoo
• "Great Divide" - the Cardigans

Boyfriend #2 (JK)

• "Don't you want me baby?" by Human League because I first heard the song when we were dancing at a bar.
• "Reflections" by Atmosphere, because I learned the song the day before we met.
• "Where'd You Go?" by Fort Minor because he kept leaving on trips.
• "Littlest Things" by Lily Allen.
• IF you go away - Emilina Torrini
• The Sweet Escape - Gwen Stefani

College Crush #3 (MG)

• "Portions for Foxes" by Rilo Kiley because he was 'bad news', my friends told me to forget him, and I liked him anyway.
• Girlfriend by Avril Levigne. I did not like his girlfriend.
• "Fidelity" = hmmm everyone

College Boyfriend #4 (PM)

• "Strong Enough" by Sheryl Crowe, because his wishy-washyness often made me feel like hell, and I was perfectly prepared to believe anything he said as long as it was what I wanted to hear.
• "My Humps" by Black Eyed Peas.

Boyfriend #1 (PK)

• "Amber" by 311 because he tried to play it on the guitar for me

Crush #1 (KE)

• "Kamasutra by Adassa, and "My Love" J-Timberlake because we danced to those. And then he said that he didn't want our relationship to go in  "that" direction. 

College Boyfriend #4 (AC)

• "Don't Matter" by Akon, because nobody wanted to see us together.

Washington DC Non-boyfriend #1 (JD)

• "Cold Shoulder" by Adele. Because everything he told me was lies, and his kept giving me the cold shoulder. Jerk.

Catching up with old boyfriends

Maybe it's the cold air and the need to huddle up to something warm (like memories, or me), but I have been receiving information about old boyfriends recently. Which is rather disturbing.

For one, I learned that the father of an ex died nine months ago. Which is pretty sad. However, I can't bring myself to offer my condolences because then the ex might think he has permission to contact me, which he does not. So I will offer the condolences to the universe. I'm sorry for your loss, ex-and-family!

Secondly, I received a long email from another ex - the kind of epistle that you have no idea how to begin respond to.And! I have found my thoughts returning to a three times removed (a/k/a three boyfriends ago. I think three. It may have been more.). Anyway, while I know I would never be happy with this man, "sometimes I find myself sitting back and reminiscing, especially when I have to watch other people kissing..." (Lily Allen, "Littlest Things")

On another note, I feel so bad for Jennifer Hudson and the Hudson-King family. I can't believe the little boy, Julian King, was shot. What kind of barbaric world is this where a child is kidnapped and shot? And the most disheartening part is that no one would care about this family in Englewood, Chicago, if they weren't related to someone famous. I think eleven children who go to the Chicago Public Schools have been shot since school start two months ago. Eleven children! Gun violence must stop.

The founding fathers who wrote the second amendment had no premonition of the semi-automatic weapon. If the second amendment were limited to muskets and other 18th century arms, then it would be a lot better than the current interpretation. Taking the Constitution literally is like taking the Bible literally: both documents condone slavery and archaic social mores. They are templates, people! Meant to be adapted to modern times! agh!

So the world looks like a pretty dire place right now. I think we will all heave a huge sigh of relief when Obama is elected in a week. I am pretty sure that Obama is the second Messiah. Please God let him be elected, and not assassinated!

New Boyfriend

I've been thinking a lot about what I want my next boyfriend to be like. First and foremost, I want him to be a coffee drinker so that getting coffee in the mornings is just as much a priority to him as it is to me! Then, hopefully he doesn't drink girlie coffee, like mochas, or order the same thing all the time. I like a man who can mix it up.
Next, I hope he is in good enough shape so he doesn't get out of breath during physical exertion.
I want him to have a heart of gold. To love me, to love his family and my family. Ideally he would belong to a church or other faith group, as long as it's not "religion lite".
He has a beautiful singing voice but is too modest to brag about it.
He is smart but doesn't go on polemics that bore me.
He WANTS to be in a relationship.
He was never a man-whore and he is STD-free.
He wants to give me the wedding of my dreams and to have a family. He wants to adopt a special-needs child.
He is kind to children and animals.
He is empathetic and a great listener. He has compassion for human foibles, but keeps it real.
His home is clean and he is fairly well organized.
He doesn't have a pornography collection or subscribe to magazines that he wouldn't show to his grandmother.
He is passionate about a lot of things.
He doesn't use illegal drugs of any kind. He doesn't abuse alcohol.
He rejoices in the love I have for him.
He volunteers his time to worthy causes.
He makes me laugh, and laughs at my jokes.
He doesn't judge me or make me justify myself.
He loves to travel and take vacations.
He frequently surprises me with delightful presents.
He is not a right-winger.
He is a sports fan.
He has lots of friends.
He likes to cook, and likes to order take-out.
He gives excellent massages.
He always tells me I am beautiful, especially when I dress up for a date.
He is naturally affectionate.
He is not a whiner.
He is not self-centered, self-indulgent, or irresponsible.
He calls.
He shows up.
He is gracious and engaged at family parties.
He kindly corrects me when I am off track.
He gets it.

Is this a dream? Henry Cavill (Charles Brandon on the Tudors) would do in a pinch. haha